Many times people are looking for recipes for success and happiness outside of themselves and complain about their fate and the conditions they live in. This behavior makes them dissatisfied and unhappy. How to be successful in life is a process with a lot of obstacles and problems, but in most cases the way you treat your life is that which determines the degree of success, happiness and satisfaction.
When sometimes things are getting difficult most people give up and abandon the effort. We know that success takes time, energy, needs focus and patience. While one person hesitates because he feels disadvantaged, someone else is busy with making mistakes and thus taking the responsibility for life success. Too many people do not demand anything from their life, they require little, and take the minimum and are happy with the minimum. If you want to be successful in your life you need to do a plan and visualize your success. Below you can find 15 ways to help you achieve your goals and be successful in life.
1. Be active and not passive
People have the desire to be active in their lives and control their environment (family, other people, work, etc.) and not being controlled by it. Self confidence and the strength to take the right decision for your self (and not do what will please others) are important parameters that can help you overcome stress, beat passiveness and be successful in your life. Take your decisions and stop feeling sorry for your self. If you need to mourn for a loss or a bad situation do it, but do not to be consumed by it. Accepting the real facts and doing a realistic assessment is the starting point to set targets and to change your life.
2. Set your goals
The ability of personal leadership begins by setting specific goals for your self. Usually people have broad and vague desires, but they do not develop a specific plan or strategy to achieve what they want. It is very important to start by setting specific targets and learning to focus on your goals, avoiding and bypassing any destruction. This enables better concentration, productivity that will eventually lead to success. This personal success will help you overcome your fears of failure and enable you to take the big step to change your life and meet your goals.
3. Set priorities
There is a need to become a manager for yourself, which means that you must learn to organize and implement your activities so as to align with your objectives. It is important to set priorities, because normally you cannot manage everything at once. Evaluate your goals and decide what is truly important to spend time and effort to achieve them.
4. Positive thinking
Think and visualize your personal victory. This is the best way to face every situation i.e. as a personal victory, not defeat. Instead of thinking that everything in life is like a cake and whoever takes a piece this will make the remaining pieces smaller for others, think that in life there is plenty for everyone. Rather then start thinking that you will not succeed or that there are insurmountable obstacles, adopt a realistic attitude and believe that you can accomplish your goals, even if you have to experience some difficulties.
5. Come closer to other people – cooperate
First understand others and then try to understand what is the best recipe for your personal and professional relationships. What others think and what they want, what they fear and how you can reach them better? These questions should guide your behavior in order to free from the fear that «others cannot understand me» and to develop functional, successful relationships.
One can achieve more through cooperation. You need to take care when you select the people to co-operate with, but also you need to set the strategy you will follow to handle the cooperation and relationship with other people. However, this is better than to hide it in your shell and believe that you will make it all alone, without any cooperation or help from others.
6. Renew your self
Your self has many dimensions: emotional, social, intellectual, physical and mental. It is necessary to try and improve your self in all those dimensions and to cultivate the potential in each of these areas. You need to find your personal pleasures and not to always follow what others do or want. This means that everybody should put their fears aside and be renewed, giving personal meaning in life.
7. Be Persistent
If you refuse to abandon the effort every time and at any cost, if you continue to be persistent but not intolerant, if you keep your eyes up and not around then your can be successful in your life and your name can be added to the endless list of successful people. Those people who refused to quit in the first hitch. There are many cases of people who did not give up despite the difficulties and failures.
Did you know that:
Nelson Mandela spent 27 years in a very harsh prison. Once released, he was elected president of South Africa and received the Nobel Peace Prize.
Michael Jordan was excluded from the basketball team of his school.
Conrad Hilton had bought some hotels, but lost all of them during economic recession. His accountants advised him to declare bankruptcy. He refused and with perseverance and determination has become one of the largest hotel chain owners, bearing his name and worth several million dollars.
There are many people who refused to abandon the effort even when they were faced with unbeatable difficulties. The list is endless, George Washington, Albert Einstein, Oprah Winfrey, Aristotle Onasis, … If you want your name to be entered in this list of people then your persistence should set aside your weaknesses and help you achieve your goals. Unfortunately, few are those who continue despite the difficulties, most people when they encounter a minor setback they give up and fail.
8. Understand that failure is a temporary situation
There are no exceptions to this rule. Some people know this due to the experience they have with persistence. You should not accept any defeat as something other than a temporary situation. Your desires and objectives have to be persistent so as to convert the temporary defeat eventually into victory. You should become one of those people who stand on the edge of life and watch other people give in to defeat and not ever rise again. Those who understand that failure is a temporary situation.
The society recognizes the genius and talented but it compensates economically and socially those who refuse to stop the effort. It recognizes and compensates perseverance.
9. Keep trying until you finally win
Perseverance is nothing but a mental situation, and like all other mental states can thus be cultivated. Life can give everyone a plate of dinner and a glass of wine. It requires persistence, however, for those who seek much higher goals and want to be successful. So set your price and move on with your life. The basis of persistent is the basis of desire and occurs as a result of defined goals. To achieve that you should:
Determine your purpose. After setting the goal of your life you must define the purpose of that goal, this knowledge will help you overcome all the obstacles you will face in the way, and is a very powerful incentive.
Do not ever doubt for yourself. There is no room for self-uncertainty in your intention to become successful. Keep your courage high; do not to return to your old limiting beliefs with the first difficulty.
Persistence. It is easy to obtain and maintain perseverance for your goals if you can create feelings of passion and desire for that goal. Do not give up, be open to amazing opportunities and always look for a miracle. Even better you should become this miracle.
Be honest with yourself and clearly define on what needs to change. The change may be necessary and safe to bring success, so be flexible, open and honest.
When something is not working, get rid of it and renew your decision to move on. Do not focus on what goes wrong, concentrate on how to do it well.
Do not interpret your mistakes as failures. The failure is a source of invaluable education. When you see what is not working properly you can see what works well and should move in this direction and closer to your dreams.
Live with gratitude. Acknowledge and celebrate for all that you have this moment in your life. The sense of the unfulfilled extents and multiplies, so look carefully around you and be happy and grateful.
Habit. Perseverance is the direct result of habit, repetition and courage. Take risks, do something new, different and challenging. Get rid of your fears and risks. Really believe that the best way to live your life is out of the ordinary.
The willingness to insist will keep you on track in difficult times. What you usually say to yourself “Thing of big dreams, but be realistic” is not correct. Always have big dreams and big ambitions, and invest time, effort and flexibility to realize these dreams. Be persistent, but still relaxed, focused sighted but flexible – both in terms of your goals and your plans.
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