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If you can change your brain you can change your life

admin — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 21:22:53 +0000

To achieve a change in your life you first have to change your brain, to change your thoughts and way of thinking. Few are those who have not thought at some point in their lives: «What should I do to change my life». For some this means relief from the «bad» habits such as smoking, alcohol or sweets; for others it is a job that has become intolerable, a weak relationship, something vague that does not meet their needs and sometimes their entire life seems to need a change. Anyone who has tried to change a habit knows that it is not easy. Any change in the way we live is an adventure that requires a lot of strength, patience and persistence. They key for changing your life is in your brain. Those who can manage to change their brain they will manage to change their life.

Change Your Brain, Change Your Life: The Breakthrough Program for Conquering Anxiety, Depression, Obsessiveness, Anger, and Impulsiveness

Every life change is a sacrifice

Each change in your life, even if you want to do it, is a sacrifice, a separation, something that you leave behind. Even if you want to change something that tortures you, that devastates you or something that does not make you feel good, it is a piece of yourself, it is familiar, known, accessible, enjoyable and perhaps something that you love. However, what usually happens is that you believe-or want-to-believe that changing your life is not difficult. That is paradoxical.

Even if our personal experience teach us differently, even if we have tried many times and we have not achieved the change in our life, we always stretch our ears and listen with great interest any advertising that promises to relieve us easily, quickly and painlessly from our bad habits, any story that tells dramatic changes: About someone who lost 20 pounds in one month, about a person who managed to stop smoking from one day to the next, about someone who resigned from his work and set up in little time his successful business, for someone who got divorced after difficult years of marriage and recently found the great love of his life. Encouraged from such striking examples, we put ourselves ambitious targets for the next week – month – season -year. But we often forget them after a few weeks and we end up with a bitter taste of failure that stays deep within us.

Is therefore any effort to change your life doomed to fail? Things are not quite so, although those who have given special focus on changing lifestyle and habits keep a very careful and cautious attitude. There are events in our lives, such as an illness, an accident, which are very strong and they force us to make large and real changes to our lives. But this is the exception. As confirmed by the statistics, 25% of all major “change your life” projects are abandoned on average after 15 weeks. Very few are those who can manage with little effort, from one day to another, to abandon the «bad» habits, addictions and unpleasant situations. For the majority in order to succeed in such a process they must first change their thoughts, their way of thinking. Changing your brain is the major step in the overall change life process. You may not be able to achieve this the first time. Most people pass the same test again and again. Around five to six times is the usual number of failures until «the final round».

To change your brain and your life you need a lot of effort and hard work. This is something we are not aware of when we are considering a change in our lives. This is natural. Who wants to be stressed? Who is willing to suffer deprivation, negative emotions, anxiety, distress, seeking something that is supposed to be better? Even if we can imagine, hear, or hope that the change will be to our benefit, it does not cease to be something vague and uncertain.

The high expectations

The main reason why efforts to change your brain – change your life fail, according to experts is due to the “the false hope syndrome”. Usually people set high standards and have high expectations and the end result makes them think that they failed. For example «I lost only 17 pounds, and I intended to lose 25, I failed». In other cases we want to change many things simultaneously: «I took the decision to start a diet and quit smoking during the next vacation». There are also cases that we believe that a change will change our whole life, will do it better (“I will lose weight, and I will certainly find the love of my life”).

These high expectations do not allow us to be happy and enjoy the small successes and pleasures of life. It’s all in our brain. Instead of being disappointed and filling your brain with negative thoughts you should try and change your brain to use these little things to reward yourself, to take courage and continue. When we see that our dreams are not full field, then we are disappointed and abandon our efforts returning back to our old habits. And even though, the success stories about “life changes” are rare in real life, many people manage to do it. Is there a secret prescription that some people know and they succeed but others don’t?

Change your brain – Change your life – a process that takes time…

To be able to change your life you need to first realize that success and long-term change is a process that requires a lot of time and it is done in phases. This is the outcome of research by doctors and psychologists who researched the issue, particularly with people who wanted to change habits such as smoking, high alcohol consumption, poor diet and sedentary lifestyle. Anyone who really wants to change something has to be armed with patience and perseverance and not looking for easy solutions. They key is changing your brain, your way of approaching life. There are no miracle pills or programs, but some internal processes that you must follow in order to reach the desired result.

Refusal. People in this phase believe that they are fine; while everyone around them sees that there is a problem. This may be due to genuine ignorance, if for example they do not realise how damaging is their attitude, or reaction, when others become pressing.

Awareness. People who are at this stage know they have problems and that they should do something to change their lives. They are still far from being really active. They weight the pros and cons of a change, and usually, at this stage they still find that the disadvantages from a life change are more than the advantages: «If I quit smoking, I will get fat», «if I divorce now, I won’t be able to cope financially». It is a difficult period because, while they feel the desire and the need for change, they feel unable to do so.

Preparation. This stage differs from the previous one is two main areas: The person is giving more attention on the solution of the problem and less attention to the problem as such, it is considering the future more than the past. It starts to think about the steps to follow for a real life change. For example, following a diet, which can be used with out disturbing the rest of the family meal, analyzing the advices for quitting smoking and creating an action plan to quit.

At this stage it is important to give your self as many incentives as possible. Be very specific; imagine the benefits you will receive. The stage hides a danger: the euphoria of preparation can lead to the real change been forgotten. Be careful, make sure that your brain remains active and always try to think how you can achieve the change in your life practically not only theoretically.

Action Plan and perseverance

To make the next step from the pleasant stage of preparation to actually making a change, it is necessary to have a precise «action plan». The more well-thought and researched plan the greater is the chances of success. It is therefore very important to have a good preparation before entering the actual stage where you will implement the change in your life.

The next stage is that of resistance and perseverance. The main difficulty is the pressure from other people, the stability of our appreciation and of course the anxiety and stress that emotionally are forcing us to go back to the old, familiar life. These are all unavoidable, so one should not feel frustrated and give up if there are a few drawbacks in the change process. Changing your brain is not an easy process, most people do not succeed at first, but they succeed after 4-5 failed attempts.

The last stage is that of stabilization, which for many people is a way of life. The change in our habits, our self is a process that may never end permanently. Alcoholics for example must avoid alcohol for a lifetime, if they do not want to start drinking again. What is certain, at whatever stage you manage to get, is that change is a difficult adventure, during which you leave something known for something unknown; you meteor between two situations, and this should make you tender and lenient with yourself.

Besides the internal phases that you will inevitably follow in order to change your brain and your life, there are also some practical and easy ways that can help you teach your brain to welcome a life change and think positively about success.

Be optimistic that you will be able to change your life

You need to make the extra effort and change your brain -your perception- about yourself and imagine yourself as a successful person. How to be successful in life is about keeping this strong image in your brain, and do not allow it to fade. Over time, this perception will evolve in your brain and will be stimulated. Do not try to challenge the reality of this intellectual image because it will be dangerous. Your brain will also try to fill in the gaps. Always have in your brain the image of success regardless of any drawbacks or unfortunate events.

Each time that a negative thought concerning your powers and abilities invades your brain, try to change your thoughts and bring to your mind something positive.

Fight and overcome your fears

When building the image of success in your brain do not take into account any possible obstacles, instead try to minimize them. Any difficulties must be analyzed be treated efficiently and eliminated. Try not giving them more power and meaning than they really have. Often fear exaggerates the difficulties and «hides» their true dimension.

Visualize your success

Think of your brain as an image playback unit. These images are generated from your thoughts. They either give us hope, power and creativity or they make us frighten and reluctant to make the next big step and change our lives.

When you are thinking negatively, your brain will create negative thoughts and you will end up with negative reactions. The opposite is the effect of positive thinking and positive thoughts. Positive thinking stimulates our brain to produce positive thoughts and images. To start thinking positive you have to create these positive images in your brain and take advantage of the inspiration and creativity they will create.

Nobody is perfect

This is one of the most important advices. Do not be impressed by other people and certainly do not try to copy them. The only one that can be effective in your life is yourself. Have in mind that that irrespective of how dynamic and successful some people look, they for sure have the same lack of self-confidence and fear as you do.

Analyze your thoughts

Analyse your thoughts. Find out what is causing you the feelings of inferiority and fear. It is possible that these feelings of inferiority have their roots from childhood. In such case it is better to get professional advice from a specialist in order to understand why you feel and behave in a particular way. To change your brain you first need to change your thoughts.

Believe in your skills

Try to understand your skills and things that you are good at and then increase that by 10%. This does not imply that you will become selfish. Instead, you must believe in your own forces and ways in order to be able to change your life. Only when you believe in your self you will be able to change your brain and your life.

Adopt a positive way of thinking

The first step is to change your brain and start thinking positive. The second step is to translate these positive thoughts into creative thinking. Positive thinking alone will not help you, creative thinking will. Creative thinking is about planning and setting goals for the present and future. You can start from simple hacks, everyday things that are part of your daily schedule. Doing this will help you get organised not only physically but also mentally and will let you eventually meet your goals.

Allocate some time for your own personal development

Get active and start transforming your thoughts into actions. Allocate some time from your busy daily schedule for your own self-improvement. Try and find ways to simplify and facilitate your daily obligations, which would result in savings of your valuable time that is needed for your personal development. Give priority in solving the problems of everyday life and then use your creativity and energy to change your life. Focus first on your personal relationships both in your work, family and friends.

Start dreaming about your new life

The power of the brain is enormous. With dreaming alone it can magically take you to places that can make you happy. Use this power of your brain to relax and get inspired for your new life. Do not stop dreaming!

Start dreaming about what you would like to achieve in your life, your relationships and your career. Think about it intensely with as many details as you can. This process will make you feel better and will give you the incentives to reach your goals. Try and do this every day thinking and dreaming, again and again and again!

So, it should be clear by now that if you can change your brain you can change your life. Get rid of the fears, the negative thoughts. Turn your possible failures into success and boost your self-confidence. Make your negative thoughts positive and your will also be more acceptable in your environment. Take control of your brain today and eventually you will be able to change your life, and live the life that you dreamed about for so long. Fight all the evil thoughts from their root and stop them from reaching the surface.

Changing your life is in your hands…or rather is in your brain!

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11 hacks on how to set goals that can change your life

admin — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 19:56:45 +0000

In life all people seek and pursue success in what they want. To succeed, however, is necessary to be ready to change your life. In order to do that you need to clarify what you want, and set clearly defined goals and objectives. People who succeed are those who spend some time to think and record what they really want to achieve in their life. By doing so they are able to continually refer to their goals and have always in their mind, the objectives and priorities set.

The result is that they manage to focus on their goals. They do not unfairly waste their energy in other situations that does not allow them to achieve their targets.

The setting of goals and priorities is therefore a very important process that must take place at the beginning. It serves as a road map that will allow you not to get lost in the maze of situations arising in daily life.

How then can you set your goals, how can you record and make your own road map to reach the success you want and manage to change your life?

What hacks and techniques can you use so as not to be misled and be able to deal with all sorts of obstacles that will come across?

1. Make sure that the goals you set are something you really want and it is not just something that sounds cool or it’s nice to achieve

When your goals represent something that you want strongly, then your subconscious will help you find the right people, places and conditions that are essential for achieving your goals.

Set goals on key areas of your life: For your family and home, for your professional career, your financial condition, your physical and mental health and other areas that are priorities for you as the spiritual, religious life, culture or education.

2. It is necessary to record your goals and refer to them regularly

Create your own road map, according to what you want.

By writing down your goals it helps you clarify your thoughts better and form a clearer picture in your mind. At the same time you can re-visit your target list, if possible every day, to see your goals and remember what you want to really succeed in your life.

3. Record what you will gain by achieving each of your goals

This will enhance your morale during the difficult times that you will inevitably encounter. Think and write as many reasons as possible about the benefits you will gain by achieving all your goals.

Later, when you read the plan, your road map, you will have stronger incentives that will push you towards your goals.

4. Visualize your success

It is very important to try visualizing in your mind that you have achieved your goals. For example, if you aim to get a house, close your eyes and visualize your new home. Form a mental image and bring it in your mind regularly.

This technique helps because it operates in your subconscious and thus will help you in your daily actions to achieve your goals.

5. Always aim high

The higher you set the bar the more you will achieve. Even if you do not achieve your goals entirety because you have set high goals, you will reach inevitably high.

It is necessary that your goals are not conflicting or unrealistic. For example you cannot set a goal to buy a house that is 15 or 20 times your annual income.

6. Take action today do not postpone it

When you set your goals and specify your action plan, do not delay, but start working on it. Time is valuable and your well thought and planned moves should not be postponed but bring you closer to your goals.

7. Anticipate that you will encounter difficulties

In the attempt to change your life is normal to find in your way many difficulties, challenges and adversity. Because you are bound to encounter difficulties, try in advance to see what difficulties you will find and consider ways to address them.

This practice will prepare you to effectively handle the constraints, with less stress and risk of errors. The parallel analysis of the possible difficulties and thinking of ways to address them will help you avoid many of these.

8. Make relations with successful, motivated people

Create friends and allies, and improve your relations with people around you.

The human relationships are the most valuable asset you have.

9. Be careful to whom you talk about your goals

Do not discuss your goals with anyone. People in your family, friends or others you know may have a negative approach and may disappoint you. There are people who do not set goals to reach higher and are not able to understand you or give you ideas that will help you. Discuss your goals with people who have a key role in achieving your goals.

10. Every time you take a decision, ask your self if this decision gets you closer or further away from your goals

To be able to take the right decisions, that will lead you towards your own road map and closer in achieving your goals, you need to often refer to your goals and use the technique of visualization.

This will make it easier for you when you need to take a decision and you will have to respond to your internal question whether this decision will take you closer or further away from your goals.

11. The change of goals is not necessarily a bad thing

During the course of action you may realize that due to certain situations, you have to modify or change one of your goals.

This is not necessarily bad. Instead you can consider this as a form of success because you understood early that it is in your interest to change something in your strategy.

In conclusion we emphasize that if you spend a little time to set your goals and consider the strategy to follow, then you will be able to take the big step to change your life and reach higher levels of success.

But remember that changing your life and how to be successful in life is difficult, requires discipline, concentration and clear goals about what you want to achieve.

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9 hacks on how to be successful in life

admin — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 14:58:42 +0000

Many times people are looking for recipes for success and happiness outside of themselves and complain about their fate and the conditions they live in. This behavior makes them dissatisfied and unhappy. How to be successful in life is a process with a lot of obstacles and problems, but in most cases the way you treat your life is that which determines the degree of success, happiness and satisfaction.

When sometimes things are getting difficult most people give up and abandon the effort. We know that success takes time, energy, needs focus and patience. While one person hesitates because he feels disadvantaged, someone else is busy with making mistakes and thus taking the responsibility for life success. Too many people do not demand anything from their life, they require little, and take the minimum and are happy with the minimum. If you want to be successful in your life you need to do a plan and visualize your success. Below you can find 15 ways to help you achieve your goals and be successful in life.

1. Be active and not passive

People have the desire to be active in their lives and control their environment (family, other people, work, etc.) and not being controlled by it. Self confidence and the strength to take the right decision for your self (and not do what will please others) are important parameters that can help you overcome stress, beat passiveness and be successful in your life. Take your decisions and stop feeling sorry for your self. If you need to mourn for a loss or a bad situation do it, but do not to be consumed by it. Accepting the real facts and doing a realistic assessment is the starting point to set targets and to change your life.

2. Set your goals

The ability of personal leadership begins by setting specific goals for your self. Usually people have broad and vague desires, but they do not develop a specific plan or strategy to achieve what they want. It is very important to start by setting specific targets and learning to focus on your goals, avoiding and bypassing any destruction. This enables better concentration, productivity that will eventually lead to success. This personal success will help you overcome your fears of failure and enable you to take the big step to change your life and meet your goals.

3. Set priorities

There is a need to become a manager for yourself, which means that you must learn to organize and implement your activities so as to align with your objectives. It is important to set priorities, because normally you cannot manage everything at once. Evaluate your goals and decide what is truly important to spend time and effort to achieve them.

4. Positive thinking

Think and visualize your personal victory. This is the best way to face every situation i.e. as a personal victory, not defeat. Instead of thinking that everything in life is like a cake and whoever takes a piece this will make the remaining pieces smaller for others, think that in life there is plenty for everyone. Rather then start thinking that you will not succeed or that there are insurmountable obstacles, adopt a realistic attitude and believe that you can accomplish your goals, even if you have to experience some difficulties.

5. Come closer to other people – cooperate

First understand others and then try to understand what is the best recipe for your personal and professional relationships. What others think and what they want, what they fear and how you can reach them better? These questions should guide your behavior in order to free from the fear that «others cannot understand me» and to develop functional, successful relationships.

One can achieve more through cooperation. You need to take care when you select the people to co-operate with, but also you need to set the strategy you will follow to handle the cooperation and relationship with other people. However, this is better than to hide it in your shell and believe that you will make it all alone, without any cooperation or help from others.

6. Renew your self

Your self has many dimensions: emotional, social, intellectual, physical and mental. It is necessary to try and improve your self in all those dimensions and to cultivate the potential in each of these areas. You need to find your personal pleasures and not to always follow what others do or want. This means that everybody should put their fears aside and be renewed, giving personal meaning in life.

7. Be Persistent

If you refuse to abandon the effort every time and at any cost, if you continue to be persistent but not intolerant, if you keep your eyes up and not around then your can be successful in your life and your name can be added to the endless list of successful people. Those people who refused to quit in the first hitch. There are many cases of people who did not give up despite the difficulties and failures.

Did you know that:

Nelson Mandela spent 27 years in a very harsh prison. Once released, he was elected president of South Africa and received the Nobel Peace Prize.

Michael Jordan was excluded from the basketball team of his school.

Conrad Hilton had bought some hotels, but lost all of them during economic recession. His accountants advised him to declare bankruptcy. He refused and with perseverance and determination has become one of the largest hotel chain owners, bearing his name and worth several million dollars.

There are many people who refused to abandon the effort even when they were faced with unbeatable difficulties. The list is endless, George Washington, Albert Einstein, Oprah Winfrey, Aristotle Onasis, … If you want your name to be entered in this list of people then your persistence should set aside your weaknesses and help you achieve your goals. Unfortunately, few are those who continue despite the difficulties, most people when they encounter a minor setback they give up and fail.

8. Understand that failure is a temporary situation

There are no exceptions to this rule. Some people know this due to the experience they have with persistence. You should not accept any defeat as something other than a temporary situation. Your desires and objectives have to be persistent so as to convert the temporary defeat eventually into victory. You should become one of those people who stand on the edge of life and watch other people give in to defeat and not ever rise again. Those who understand that failure is a temporary situation.

The society recognizes the genius and talented but it compensates economically and socially those who refuse to stop the effort. It recognizes and compensates perseverance.

9. Keep trying until you finally win

Perseverance is nothing but a mental situation, and like all other mental states can thus be cultivated. Life can give everyone a plate of dinner and a glass of wine. It requires persistence, however, for those who seek much higher goals and want to be successful. So set your price and move on with your life. The basis of persistent is the basis of desire and occurs as a result of defined goals. To achieve that you should:

Determine your purpose. After setting the goal of your life you must define the purpose of that goal, this knowledge will help you overcome all the obstacles you will face in the way, and is a very powerful incentive.

Do not ever doubt for yourself. There is no room for self-uncertainty in your intention to become successful. Keep your courage high; do not to return to your old limiting beliefs with the first difficulty.

Persistence. It is easy to obtain and maintain perseverance for your goals if you can create feelings of passion and desire for that goal. Do not give up, be open to amazing opportunities and always look for a miracle. Even better you should become this miracle.

Be honest with yourself and clearly define on what needs to change. The change may be necessary and safe to bring success, so be flexible, open and honest.

When something is not working, get rid of it and renew your decision to move on. Do not focus on what goes wrong, concentrate on how to do it well.

Do not interpret your mistakes as failures. The failure is a source of invaluable education. When you see what is not working properly you can see what works well and should move in this direction and closer to your dreams.

Live with gratitude. Acknowledge and celebrate for all that you have this moment in your life. The sense of the unfulfilled extents and multiplies, so look carefully around you and be happy and grateful.

Habit. Perseverance is the direct result of habit, repetition and courage. Take risks, do something new, different and challenging. Get rid of your fears and risks. Really believe that the best way to live your life is out of the ordinary.

The willingness to insist will keep you on track in difficult times. What you usually say to yourself “Thing of big dreams, but be realistic” is not correct. Always have big dreams and big ambitions, and invest time, effort and flexibility to realize these dreams. Be persistent, but still relaxed, focused sighted but flexible – both in terms of your goals and your plans.

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Change your life with 9 simple steps

admin — Sun, 18 Jan 2009 09:19:27 +0000

Changing your life is not an easy thing to do. It needs courage, strength, patience and willingness. To change your life you need first to know what you really want to do with your life. What are your dreams for the present and the future? Do you reject your dream because you think it is impossible to achieve? Is it because the circumstances of your life or the people around you have managed to convince you that the dreams in life are a luxury and that should settle with the «small» and «secure» instead of chasing things that you want to do. Life to be beautiful needs a risk…

We all have phases in our lives in which we either feel tired or have a bad mood, or we are angry and sad without knowing why, and we are bored of everything and do not want to see anyone…

Usually we do not know how to deal with these faces of our lives and as a result we fall into a vicious cycle of inaction, low energy and negative thinking. What we can do change our mood and overcome those bad phases? We need to react and change our lives . This can be achieved with small things of everyday life that can make the big difference!

9 Simple Steps to change your life

1. Decide that you need to change your life

Everything in our lives is the result of our choices. It’s our choice not trying to fulfil our dreams and it’s our choice to compromise with the current situation that gives us a rudimentary – virtual certainty. It is certain that when we do not risk and practically do nothing, there is no risk of failure. Simply, in this case the failure is a permanent situation that gradually becomes a habit and does not disturb us. It is a failure not trying to get where we want or where we are worth – despite that we do not realise it or despite the fact that we find thousands of excuses for ourselves. On the other hand, any success if we look for it, we will see that involves some degree of risk and this is a result of personal choice. In order for us to be able to make the right choices we should first of all find out what we really want to do in our lives.

2. Set and visualize your goals

The right decision is the most important factor that will lead us to the next steps towards the realization of our dreams and goals. Think of a painter who wants to create a beautiful painting. First he captures the idea and thinks of the final result. What will the painting illustrate and what colours to use? Having visualized the final result then creates a blueprint to allow him to see how to proceed in order to be able to have the desired effect. Each stroke is a step towards the final goal, the more beautiful the stroke, the more beautiful it is the result!

The same pattern applies to any goal or dream we have in our life. You have for example the dream to succeed professionally. First you must specify and clarify in your mind what is the area in which you want to excel, depending on your skills. The next step is to see what skills you need and direct your target to acquire these skills, and then you need to get the right job and work hard. This sequence of right choices will lead you with mathematical precision to where you want to reach. The road to success is always the same: planned moves, hard work and focus on the objective.

If your dream is to marry and create a wonderful family, it does not change anything from what we said above. In order to marry you must first need to find an appropriate partner and decide what will make you happy. Choosing the right person is your first step, but for a marriage to be happy you need to have understanding, compromises and a lot – a lot of love.

3. Do not “avoid” your dreams

Unfortunately, most of us are constantly busy with our jobs and so smothered in the problems of everyday life that do not find time to sit quietly with ourselves and decide what we want from our lives or what are those things which will make us happy. Unfortunately, we have not understood that when we «avoid» ourselves, in essence we avoid our goals and our dreams. We cannot realize that a dream can give us wings and change radically our reality! If we leave ourselves free to dream it will fill our souls with the will and strength to make the first step.

4. Nobody is perfect!

From the moment we stop to have a dependency on perfection, life seems simpler and more enjoyable. We achieve nothing if we blame ourselves constantly charging it with impotence. We achieve nothing by setting targets, which are not realistic, and then run like mad to meet them and then naturally fail. The mania of us to be the first, best, most successful, the most beautiful can only cause suffering, because there is always the best. Let us see life more relaxed and let us be honest with us and less tough.

5. Humour!

Instead of getting angry about behaviours and situations why we cannot just laugh with them? This small change would be enormous in terms of our mood. The humour and self-sarcasms makes us good! Remember that laughter makes our life longer and more beautiful, strengthens the protection of the body and strengthens the immune system and provide a shield to protect the heart and migraines.

6. Slow down and relax

We have learned to live our lives hastily in lunatics pace. All the time we are busy with something and forget to rest and relax. Many times we are too tired but we do not realize early to get some time to rest and at the end we get over-tired. It is therefore important to spend some time for ourselves to relax and sleep well, to devote time to do the things we like and we are grateful and not to fill our lives with endless obligations. We have the right for rest and pleasure. Life is not just a job … so relax without remorse.

7. Do not neglect your sexual health

It is proven that sex is good for our health. Sex beautifies the skin, burns calories and boosts our confidence! It also gives emotional balance and wellbeing. Flirting is also the best tonic for our mood; it improves our psychological condition and makes us feel good.

8. Diet and exercise

A balanced diet and perhaps a detoxification diet in which to avoid all fat and unhealthy food will renew our mood and will give us energy and appetite for life. A good breakfast will give us the «fuel» that our body needs to meet the demands of the day and thus reduce the feeling of fatigue that we are likely to feel.

We should try and reduce the coffee so as to decrease the nervousness and headaches while the exercise (even if it is a few minutes walk) is very beneficial for our mood and our health as a whole.

9. Happiness is in simple things

Let us not forget that happiness lies in simple things. Instead of seeing everything around us negative or insignificant, you should enjoy the small joys that everyday life offers us. A smile, a tasty food, a pleasant evening with our family, a walk with our dog, a hug from the person we love can fill us with happiness and satisfaction. Do not underestimate it!

10. Be prepared to take the next step…

Our lives will never change if deal with it with contentment and defeatism. To change our lives we need radical measures, we need goals, effort, struggle, discipline and consistency. Above all, we have a soul, our soul. A dream is enough to make our soul capable of everything….

Do not allow anyone to affect you and distracts you from your goals. Anyone is doing what is right for his or her self, so do what YOU think it right for yourself and not what directly or indirectly imposed to you by people or situations.

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