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Finding Serenity from Calamity

by admin on January 10, 2010

For years growing up I wanted to believe in something… something besides Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny. As a child, I would sit in trees for hours, watching all the birds and the clouds floating by. I was inspired by the vastness of the universe and all the things that it could hold. Then, when I was around fifteen, I discovered alcohol.

For the next twenty years I would search for my place in life. And alcohol was always right there with me. At which point I became an alcoholic, I’m not sure, but the realization was made pretty early in my twenties. At one point, I remember having this sinking feeling in my soul that no matter what I accomplished in life, I would always be left unsatisfied. One thing I realize now, I had “having fun” confused with happiness. My life, while addicted to king alcohol, was full of calamity.

Deep down, it seems that everyone wants to believe in some power greater than themselves; in some universal life force that connects all living things. For most of my life, I wanted to believe in a power greater than myself, but I lived as if I was the center of the universe. What I lacked was some type of spiritual guidance and a reason to live besides drinking alcohol and having fun.

At the age of 36, after years of trying to get sober, I finally accepted the fact that I was an alcoholic and that I needed to learn about treating alcoholism, my alcoholism. So I entered a 28 day rehab center, actually it was the third time I had tried rehab, but this time I was doing it for me!

One of the most important things I have learned in recovery is how to find happiness in yourself. Once I learned how to love myself, I found that everything I need to be happy is already inside of me! Prior to embracing recovery, everything seemed like a major traumatic event, my life was full of calamity. After years of working on a spiritual program of recovery, I’m now able to match calamity with serenity. I’ve finally found something to believe in; myself and the spiritual power of the universe in which I live.

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Finding Your Place in the World

by admin on January 3, 2010

For those who lack confidence, it can be very hard to find a place in the world. It seems that there are always those who are more willing to flaunt their abilities, which tends to make the less confident person shy away and hide in the background. Those who are lacking in confidence have a tendency to believe that if others want to be seen so badly they (the less confident) should allow them the spotlight. However, this trend does have a tendency to make one not feel so good about him or herself. The solution is a lot easier said than done.

To build confidence and feel good about yourself you have to be willing to step out of your comfort zone and into the realm of the unknown. This is something that everyone eventually has to do. By so doing, you are reaching beyond what you know and bringing yourself to a level that you might have never reached before.

Let me show you what I mean with a story. Allan was a very quiet man. He never overstepped his bounds or stood up for himself. He just always did as he was told by everyone. After a while, this began to wear on him and his marriage. He was ever the dutiful husband and son, but something would eventually have to give.

One night as he and his pregnant wife were leaving his parent’s house, his mother had the nerve to call his wife fat. For anyone who has ever been pregnant or known someone else that was pregnant, you know that you don’t call a pregnant woman fat. Well, his wife had to stand up for herself. She knew this because she had been dealing with his mother for a few years now. It was something that she just accepted. To keep the peace, all she quietly said was “I am not fat. Please don’t call me that.”

His mother decided to be relentless and get the last word in. The poor young woman had to listen to taunts and teases as she attempted to get into the vehicle to leave. Finally, her dear sweet husband, who never said a bad word toward anyone, turned to his own mother and said, “She is not fat. Do not call her that, or we will not be coming by again. Do you understand?”

It took a lot of courage for a man of such a quiet nature to stand up to his own mother, but in the long run it ended up saving his marriage and giving him the confidence that he needed to be a good husband. This is just one instance of someone standing up and finding the courage to feel good about who he was as a person.

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20 steps for a successful career change

by admin on March 28, 2009

Do you feel that your professional life is stuck and you feel that you need to change your career and seek a new direction? There are some thoughts that create brave decisions that are able to change your life. The career change may be one of those decisions. But is it realistic to talk about career change in the midst of economic recession? Yet in this very moment is urgent more than ever before to do careful planning of your career. So take your job in your hands and not wait for external factors (such as a dismissal) to ” force you” to make a change in your career.

You want something better or you know that you have more capabilities, but you do not know what. You know that you are ready to deal with what is important to you and what is making you to feel better and give you more rewards. It is time to evaluate and see your true potential.

Create your own action plan for a career change

Maybe you have some ideas for the career you want to follow, but you have not defined it enough in order to take appropriate action.

The desired direction can mean a complete career change, a major upgrade in your career or even the decision to start your own business. These are all relatively large steps that you must consider and determine with yourself. To do this step successfully you need to develop strategies and a comprehensive action plan. Then you will know what to target and easily determine the next steps to take.

The right strategies will give you permanent results and the changes you want. You do not want to discover in a few months or years that you are still in the same place you are now. The strategies will guide your actions and help you clarify your priorities, rather than scattered acts and loose your valuable time, causing confusion and irritation.

To develop an action plan and define the new direction you need to think and refine the following areas. The goal is to find the perfect job that suits you because you are a unique person.
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The vision, your mission, and your purpose: How do you imagine your life, yourself, your job, and your relationships in 5 years from now?

Your personal values: What gives you motivation and what is most important to you? E.g. want to help society and others? Want power? Want creativity, diversity, independence, recognition, good pay, and security?

Your strong points, your talents and your skills: What personality you have, e.g. you are honest and enthusiastic and what skills you have that is useful in many areas of work.

What opportunities and sources or resources you have and what do you need? What should you do to get what you are missing? For example get more education, do a market research, network with the appropriate people.

The ideal life, career or business: What level of responsibility you want to take? You Want to Lead? Want to get this job full time or part-time? Do you want to be close to your home or in public transport? Do you want to live in the mountains? Do you prefer large organizations or small businesses?

What do you like and what you are doing well? Passions, interests, what inspires you, what you like and what not. E.g. are you good with computers? You like to repair machinery or furniture? You like taking photos? Are you good at math? Do you like helping others to solve their problems? Do you cook well?

Do you like to make co-operation with people in your work?
Do you prefer the creative people? Do you prefer friendly people, or people that keep the relationship professional standard? Want a boss who communicates with you regularly or someone who gives you independence?

Look first what your really want, if it is very likely that you should settle to some extent, to get as close as possible to what career you choose will give you satisfaction and success in the coming years.

20 steps for a successful career change

1. Start with a “career check up”! What have you accomplished so far? What motivates you and makes you passionate in your work? What are the aims and ambitions for your future? Do you use your skills and your talents to the fullest extent? Do you feel satisfaction and commitment? What is important to you? What are your values?

2. Make a «market research» for a new career. From the moment you discover what is your dream job, explore possible job openings. Speak to a career specialist (career consultant, executive coach or head hunter). Send your resume to companies that interest you. Even if there are no vacancies at the time, your resume will be entered into the database and the company is likely to invite you in the future, when there is an available position.

3. Do analysis of your skills and talents. What are your strong points and what areas you need to improve? Which of these abilities and work skills ensure that you have competitive advantage in the labour market? What skills you can easily use at another position, if for example, you are good in communication and interpersonal relationship management, you can effectively use these skills in all positions that require contact with customers.

4. Find a mentor. Surveys show that internationally there is a significant correlation between mentoring practices in the workplace and career development, especially for women.

5. Estimate how much satisfaction you get from your current job. Keep a diary of your daily reactions to the issues arising in your job and search for repetitive items. What aspects of your current job you like and what you cannot stand? Your negative feelings are associated with the content of your work, the culture in your company or the people with whom you work together?

6. Assess your interests, values and skills through various sources of self-esteem, like the exercises in “What Color Is Your Parachute?” by Richard N Bolles, a book for those who want to change careers. Remember the successes you had in your work, what projects have you completed more easily and what business activities you prefer. Your goal is to identify in what you are really interested and what are your most valuable skills.

7. Exchange ideas for alternative careers discussing your core values and skills with your friends, family and colleagues you trust, and create a network that will advise and help you to easily find new jobs that suit your needs.

8. Do research and comparative assessment of the various areas of interest in order to identify targets that would require deeper investigation. Your goal is to find out what areas, which companies and which persons you should go after.

9. Read more about what you are interested in, find research and statistics and make as many personal contacts you can.

10. Be the shadow of one or two people working in the field that you are interested. Spent hours or days to see how they work and learn (7 ways you can learn from other people and change your career and life), so you will not be like fish on land in case you change career and profession.

11. Try to work as a volunteer or as a freelancer at the beginning. So you will see how good you will do and learn the job without substantial and psychological costs.

12. Search for learning opportunities, which would link your past with your new professional area. Many private schools and colleges offer courses for professionals.

13. Search for ways to develop new skills in your current job, which you could open the way for a change. If your company can provide training in some new technology or expertise, express your interest.

14. Think about alternative roles in your current job, which could take advantage of your knowledge. For example, if you are a store manager in a large retail company and tired from the long hours and weekends that you have to work, think of the transcription in a company as a wholesale representative in retail.

15. Get in touch with people who can help you change your career. An important step to change career has to do with finding people who can help you get the job you want. If you think about it then you would certainly find out that there is someone you know, an old friend or associate who has a relationship with your dream job.

16. Get in touch with this person and ask a recommendation letter that will confirm that you are fit for this position. Even better, ask the person to talk about you to the employer and support you in your job application. But beware; this should not reach the limits of exaggeration. This is not about a favour, but for a good-honest-talk about your character and your skills.

17. Get a little background / work experience. Even if you do not have any experience in the job you are searching, it is never too late. You can get some work experience by just finding a relevant job (even unpaid). You can take part in a large project that requires external partners or participate in a government project or volunteer programs for young people. You can find jobs for such programs through dedicated search engines available on the web (depending on the country and region you live).

In any case you need to find a job that will allow you to gain some knowledge, and experience you can talk about in an interview with your prospective employer.

18. Adjust your expectations. The most disappointing when someone is looking for a new job is that you have to adjust your aspirations for success. Even for Michael Jordan, one of the greatest athletes in the world, he had to come to terms with the fact that he was not the «Air Jordan» when he went to play baseball with the White Sox.

It is almost certain that you will move up the scale faster than in your previous work, but not without cost. You must prove that you deserve it to the clients, colleagues and your bosses. A great past does not guarantee a greater future.

19. Utilize your skills and experiences. Although you may switch to an entirely new career, the fact that many jobs require the same skills remains. We do not live in the past where someone could not become a farmer a blacksmith and then a sailor.

Most jobs, regardless of the company, they require some basic skills such as sales, communication and proper time management. If you succeed in these areas then it is almost certain that you can succeed in almost all types of work. And you must constantly prove that you can manage it, utilizing the experience gained in your previous work.

20. Believe in yourself. Put on your best smile, boost your confidence and go after your dream! If you do not do it, nobody is going to do it for you.

In conclusion, it is three steps you must follow for a successful career change. The first is to acquire good recommendations that will open the door. The second is the enhancement of skills and experience from your previous work in your new. And the third is just beyond you. To grab the opportunities that will appear in front of you and give your best self. Do not hesitate. You can really do it.

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50 Inspiring Life Quotes

March 22, 2009

Inspiring life quotes can change your life. The inspiring life quotes can give you power, inspiration, motivation and strength to take the big step in your life. Inspiring life quotes were shared by people who managed to achieve something remarkable in their life and who have reached a point that their sayings can influence other people. The society is a live body. We are dependent on it, but it depends on us. Inspiring life quotes have the power to influence you and society. Also, inspiring life quotes can help improve our lives, if we think differently and look at problems from a different perspective.

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Change your thoughts change your life

March 12, 2009

Have you ever thought about the way you think? Did you ever consider to change your thoughts and change your life? Ever wonder how your thoughts affect the quality of your life, if not, perhaps now is the time to do it … perhaps the greatest spiritual authority ever discovered is: we become what we think we will become. Each person’s outside world is a reflection of what happens inside.

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I want to change my life

March 1, 2009

I want to change my life but I do not know how. We all have phases in our life where either we feel tired, or we have a bad mood, we are nervous and upset without knowing why, we are bored of everything and do not want to see anyone. These are the times that we all wonder, “I want to change my life. But how?” The answer to this question is not simple. There are a lot of ways to change your life. This depends on what is that you do no like in your life and want to change. Each person and situation is different. There are some life hacks which everybody can follow and change their life for the better. This article outlines 15 life hacks that will definitely improve your life and change it for the better.

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How to change your life

February 24, 2009

Many people believe that changing your professional and personal life is just a matter of luck. Either will come to your life or not. Experts and successful can confirm that there is no luck. There are some specific steps on how to change your life, which you can follow, some concrete steps that can lead to success in your life. What is a change in life? I have read many definitions of how people define a life change, but the predominant and most commonly used term is: “Changing your life means to work consistently with all your forces to achieve a remarkable dream.”

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Change your life with 9 simple steps

January 18, 2009

Changing your life is not an easy thing to do. It needs courage, strength, patience and willingness. To change your life you need first to know what you really want to do with your life. What are your dreams for the present and the future? Do you reject your dream because you think it is impossible to achieve? Is it because the circumstances of your life or the people around you have managed to convince you that the dreams in life are a luxury and that should settle with the «small» and «secure» instead of chasing things that you want to do. Life to be beautiful needs a risk.

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