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Finding Serenity from Calamity

admin — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 01:37:52 +0000

For years growing up I wanted to believe in something… something besides Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny. As a child, I would sit in trees for hours, watching all the birds and the clouds floating by. I was inspired by the vastness of the universe and all the things that it could hold. Then, when I was around fifteen, I discovered alcohol.

For the next twenty years I would search for my place in life. And alcohol was always right there with me. At which point I became an alcoholic, I’m not sure, but the realization was made pretty early in my twenties. At one point, I remember having this sinking feeling in my soul that no matter what I accomplished in life, I would always be left unsatisfied. One thing I realize now, I had “having fun” confused with happiness. My life, while addicted to king alcohol, was full of calamity.

Deep down, it seems that everyone wants to believe in some power greater than themselves; in some universal life force that connects all living things. For most of my life, I wanted to believe in a power greater than myself, but I lived as if I was the center of the universe. What I lacked was some type of spiritual guidance and a reason to live besides drinking alcohol and having fun.

At the age of 36, after years of trying to get sober, I finally accepted the fact that I was an alcoholic and that I needed to learn about treating alcoholism, my alcoholism. So I entered a 28 day rehab center, actually it was the third time I had tried rehab, but this time I was doing it for me!

One of the most important things I have learned in recovery is how to find happiness in yourself. Once I learned how to love myself, I found that everything I need to be happy is already inside of me! Prior to embracing recovery, everything seemed like a major traumatic event, my life was full of calamity. After years of working on a spiritual program of recovery, I’m now able to match calamity with serenity. I’ve finally found something to believe in; myself and the spiritual power of the universe in which I live.

Finding Your Place in the World

admin — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 00:51:34 +0000

For those who lack confidence, it can be very hard to find a place in the world. It seems that there are always those who are more willing to flaunt their abilities, which tends to make the less confident person shy away and hide in the background. Those who are lacking in confidence have a tendency to believe that if others want to be seen so badly they (the less confident) should allow them the spotlight. However, this trend does have a tendency to make one not feel so good about him or herself. The solution is a lot easier said than done.

To build confidence and feel good about yourself you have to be willing to step out of your comfort zone and into the realm of the unknown. This is something that everyone eventually has to do. By so doing, you are reaching beyond what you know and bringing yourself to a level that you might have never reached before.

Let me show you what I mean with a story. Allan was a very quiet man. He never overstepped his bounds or stood up for himself. He just always did as he was told by everyone. After a while, this began to wear on him and his marriage. He was ever the dutiful husband and son, but something would eventually have to give.

One night as he and his pregnant wife were leaving his parent’s house, his mother had the nerve to call his wife fat. For anyone who has ever been pregnant or known someone else that was pregnant, you know that you don’t call a pregnant woman fat. Well, his wife had to stand up for herself. She knew this because she had been dealing with his mother for a few years now. It was something that she just accepted. To keep the peace, all she quietly said was “I am not fat. Please don’t call me that.”

His mother decided to be relentless and get the last word in. The poor young woman had to listen to taunts and teases as she attempted to get into the vehicle to leave. Finally, her dear sweet husband, who never said a bad word toward anyone, turned to his own mother and said, “She is not fat. Do not call her that, or we will not be coming by again. Do you understand?”

It took a lot of courage for a man of such a quiet nature to stand up to his own mother, but in the long run it ended up saving his marriage and giving him the confidence that he needed to be a good husband. This is just one instance of someone standing up and finding the courage to feel good about who he was as a person.

20 steps for a successful career change

admin — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 10:21:38 +0000

Do you feel that your professional life is stuck and you feel that you need to change your career and seek a new direction? There are some thoughts that create brave decisions that are able to change your life. The career change may be one of those decisions. But is it realistic to talk about career change in the midst of economic recession? Yet in this very moment is urgent more than ever before to do careful planning of your career. So take your job in your hands and not wait for external factors (such as a dismissal) to ” force you” to make a change in your career.

You want something better or you know that you have more capabilities, but you do not know what. You know that you are ready to deal with what is important to you and what is making you to feel better and give you more rewards. It is time to evaluate and see your true potential.

Create your own action plan for a career change

Maybe you have some ideas for the career you want to follow, but you have not defined it enough in order to take appropriate action.

The desired direction can mean a complete career change, a major upgrade in your career or even the decision to start your own business. These are all relatively large steps that you must consider and determine with yourself. To do this step successfully you need to develop strategies and a comprehensive action plan. Then you will know what to target and easily determine the next steps to take.

The right strategies will give you permanent results and the changes you want. You do not want to discover in a few months or years that you are still in the same place you are now. The strategies will guide your actions and help you clarify your priorities, rather than scattered acts and loose your valuable time, causing confusion and irritation.

To develop an action plan and define the new direction you need to think and refine the following areas. The goal is to find the perfect job that suits you because you are a unique person.

The vision, your mission, and your purpose: How do you imagine your life, yourself, your job, and your relationships in 5 years from now?

Your personal values: What gives you motivation and what is most important to you? E.g. want to help society and others? Want power? Want creativity, diversity, independence, recognition, good pay, and security?

Your strong points, your talents and your skills: What personality you have, e.g. you are honest and enthusiastic and what skills you have that is useful in many areas of work.

What opportunities and sources or resources you have and what do you need? What should you do to get what you are missing? For example get more education, do a market research, network with the appropriate people.

The ideal life, career or business: What level of responsibility you want to take? You Want to Lead? Want to get this job full time or part-time? Do you want to be close to your home or in public transport? Do you want to live in the mountains? Do you prefer large organizations or small businesses?

What do you like and what you are doing well? Passions, interests, what inspires you, what you like and what not. E.g. are you good with computers? You like to repair machinery or furniture? You like taking photos? Are you good at math? Do you like helping others to solve their problems? Do you cook well?

Do you like to make co-operation with people in your work? Do you prefer the creative people? Do you prefer friendly people, or people that keep the relationship professional standard? Want a boss who communicates with you regularly or someone who gives you independence?

Look first what your really want, if it is very likely that you should settle to some extent, to get as close as possible to what career you choose will give you satisfaction and success in the coming years.

20 steps for a successful career change

1. Start with a “career check up”! What have you accomplished so far? What motivates you and makes you passionate in your work? What are the aims and ambitions for your future? Do you use your skills and your talents to the fullest extent? Do you feel satisfaction and commitment? What is important to you? What are your values?

2. Make a «market research» for a new career. From the moment you discover what is your dream job, explore possible job openings. Speak to a career specialist (career consultant, executive coach or head hunter). Send your resume to companies that interest you. Even if there are no vacancies at the time, your resume will be entered into the database and the company is likely to invite you in the future, when there is an available position.

3. Do analysis of your skills and talents. What are your strong points and what areas you need to improve? Which of these abilities and work skills ensure that you have competitive advantage in the labour market? What skills you can easily use at another position, if for example, you are good in communication and interpersonal relationship management, you can effectively use these skills in all positions that require contact with customers.

4. Find a mentor. Surveys show that internationally there is a significant correlation between mentoring practices in the workplace and career development, especially for women.

5. Estimate how much satisfaction you get from your current job. Keep a diary of your daily reactions to the issues arising in your job and search for repetitive items. What aspects of your current job you like and what you cannot stand? Your negative feelings are associated with the content of your work, the culture in your company or the people with whom you work together?

6. Assess your interests, values and skills through various sources of self-esteem, like the exercises in “What Color Is Your Parachute?” by Richard N Bolles, a book for those who want to change careers. Remember the successes you had in your work, what projects have you completed more easily and what business activities you prefer. Your goal is to identify in what you are really interested and what are your most valuable skills.

7. Exchange ideas for alternative careers discussing your core values and skills with your friends, family and colleagues you trust, and create a network that will advise and help you to easily find new jobs that suit your needs.

8. Do research and comparative assessment of the various areas of interest in order to identify targets that would require deeper investigation. Your goal is to find out what areas, which companies and which persons you should go after.

9. Read more about what you are interested in, find research and statistics and make as many personal contacts you can.

10. Be the shadow of one or two people working in the field that you are interested. Spent hours or days to see how they work and learn (7 ways you can learn from other people and change your career and life), so you will not be like fish on land in case you change career and profession.

11. Try to work as a volunteer or as a freelancer at the beginning. So you will see how good you will do and learn the job without substantial and psychological costs.

12. Search for learning opportunities, which would link your past with your new professional area. Many private schools and colleges offer courses for professionals.

13. Search for ways to develop new skills in your current job, which you could open the way for a change. If your company can provide training in some new technology or expertise, express your interest.

14. Think about alternative roles in your current job, which could take advantage of your knowledge. For example, if you are a store manager in a large retail company and tired from the long hours and weekends that you have to work, think of the transcription in a company as a wholesale representative in retail.

15. Get in touch with people who can help you change your career. An important step to change career has to do with finding people who can help you get the job you want. If you think about it then you would certainly find out that there is someone you know, an old friend or associate who has a relationship with your dream job.

16. Get in touch with this person and ask a recommendation letter that will confirm that you are fit for this position. Even better, ask the person to talk about you to the employer and support you in your job application. But beware; this should not reach the limits of exaggeration. This is not about a favour, but for a good-honest-talk about your character and your skills.

17. Get a little background / work experience. Even if you do not have any experience in the job you are searching, it is never too late. You can get some work experience by just finding a relevant job (even unpaid). You can take part in a large project that requires external partners or participate in a government project or volunteer programs for young people. You can find jobs for such programs through dedicated search engines available on the web (depending on the country and region you live).

In any case you need to find a job that will allow you to gain some knowledge, and experience you can talk about in an interview with your prospective employer.

18. Adjust your expectations. The most disappointing when someone is looking for a new job is that you have to adjust your aspirations for success. Even for Michael Jordan, one of the greatest athletes in the world, he had to come to terms with the fact that he was not the «Air Jordan» when he went to play baseball with the White Sox.

It is almost certain that you will move up the scale faster than in your previous work, but not without cost. You must prove that you deserve it to the clients, colleagues and your bosses. A great past does not guarantee a greater future.

19. Utilize your skills and experiences. Although you may switch to an entirely new career, the fact that many jobs require the same skills remains. We do not live in the past where someone could not become a farmer a blacksmith and then a sailor.

Most jobs, regardless of the company, they require some basic skills such as sales, communication and proper time management. If you succeed in these areas then it is almost certain that you can succeed in almost all types of work. And you must constantly prove that you can manage it, utilizing the experience gained in your previous work.

20. Believe in yourself. Put on your best smile, boost your confidence and go after your dream! If you do not do it, nobody is going to do it for you.

In conclusion, it is three steps you must follow for a successful career change. The first is to acquire good recommendations that will open the door. The second is the enhancement of skills and experience from your previous work in your new. And the third is just beyond you. To grab the opportunities that will appear in front of you and give your best self. Do not hesitate. You can really do it.

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50 Inspiring Life Quotes

admin — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 20:46:11 +0000

Inspiring life quotes can change your life. The inspiring life quotes can give you power, inspiration, motivation and strength to take the big step in your life. Inspiring life quotes were shared by people who managed to achieve something remarkable in their life and who have reached a point that their sayings can influence other people. The society is a live body. We are dependent on it, but it depends on us. Inspiring life quotes have the power to influence you and society. Also, inspiring life quotes can help improve our lives, if we think differently and look at problems from a different perspective.

This article presents a selection of 50 inspiring life quotes both from famous and anonymous people.

1. I say thank you to everyone who told me NO. This is why I managed to reach where I am (AL. AISTAIN)

2. What most people really want is someone to listen, to respect and understand them. When they realize that you understand them, they are motivated to understand your viewpoint.

3. In Kyudo (Japanese archery) you do not aim to find the target. You must find the right attitude, the right steps. The arrow goes to the target itself.

4. The day will dawn, either you get up or not. (John Gardi)

5. Act as if everything depends on you. While you do it and when you finish, to pray because everything depends on God.

6. The battles are won by people who know how to withstand.

7. The neighbour’s cow makes more milk from our own.

8. The harmony builds houses and the precipitate destroys them.

9. Hands who work never cadge.

10. Those who have faith they will be given more. (Bible)

11. To be successful in life you need to have the dream of the director, not the crank of the actor.

12. The work does not need trouble, but way

13. You can recognize an artist from this job.

14. You will never know how many believe that you will succeed. It is important that you believe it your self.

15. We do not appreciate enough what we obtain very easily.

16. We are working to achieve not to acquire. (ELBERT HYBBARD)

17. My only desire is freedom so that I can deal with what I like.

18. You should save your time and spend it where you must spend it, because otherwise less time will be available to be spend where it should be spend. (PERIANDROS)

19. Do you Love life? Then do not spent time, because this is from where life is made.

20. Life is more quality than quantity.

21. Courage is resistance to fear, domination over the fear, not absence of fear.

22. One step is enough to change your life.

23. Take risks! All life is a risk. Those who succeed in life are those who are willing to dare. The boat that goes for sure never goes far away from the coast.

24. The best results are often accompanied by equally large risks.

25. Life is too short to be miserable.

26. Some of us look like trolleys. We are useful only when we are pushed and we are easily reversed. (JACK Harvey)

27. The most underdeveloped region in the world is the soul of man.

28. The man who can control himself can control others.

29. The man who always looks back never goes forward.

30. We can more be useful to society by correcting our own mistakes, rather than trying to correct the mistakes of others.

31. In your personal relations you should consider other people to be wise as Socrates and strong as Hercules.

32. There are two types of communications: one with words that is expensive, especially if you make it over the phone, and one with no words that worth’s a fortune.

33. The good thing is contagious as evil.

34. The wound created by the language is much more profound than that caused by the knife. Because the knife injures the body, while the language injures the soul. (PYTHAGORAS)

35. You live only once, but if you manage your life right, once is sufficient. (Joe LOUIS)

36. When you give yourself the permission to lose, you are lead to a certain defeat.

37. The minds and parachutes work best when open.

38. People do not react to the idea of change, but in their own change from someone else.

39. True happiness is when you try the best for yourself.

40. I do not want to become better than anyone. I want every day to be better than yesterday.

41. The more you offer, the more you get back. (GOUAIIN NTYER)

42. There is a huge lie – that we have limits. The only limits we have are those who believe. (GOUAIIN NTYER)

43. Money – like health, love, happiness and all the other things you want for your self – is the result of a life with purpose. It is not an end in itself. (GOUAIIN NTYER)

44. Your personality is not given by your culture or your family. It is created by your. (GOUAIIN NTYER)

45. Do not ask for anything and you will get a lot! (GOUAIIN NTYER)

46. The destiny of man is his character. (HRAKLEITOS)

47. The most enjoyable thing in life is to do a good deed in secret, and someone to discover it by accident. (TSARLS Pubs)

48. People who do not help other people, it is impossible to feel happy. (ARISTOTLE)

49. Making a mistake is not the end of the world. Allow yourself to do it.

50. Experience is the name that everyone gives to his mistakes. (OSCAR WILDE)

The above 50 inspiring life quotes can help you see life with a different perspective and make you think how you want to approach your own life.

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Change your thoughts change your life

admin — Thu, 12 Mar 2009 20:19:12 +0000

Have you ever thought about the way you think? Did you ever consider to change your thoughts and change your life? Ever wonder how your thoughts affect the quality of your life, if not, perhaps now is the time to do it … perhaps the greatest spiritual authority ever discovered is: we become what we think we will become. Each person’s outside world is a reflection of what happens inside.

This is something that goes beyond the idea of positive thinking and behavior, it means that everything you are and everything you have is a result of your thoughts. This means that you can use this principle to your benefit. You can literally change your life if you can manage to change your thoughts.

The Power of thoughts in your life

The first step to change your life is to accept the tremendous power your thoughts have in your life. And this is because everything starts from a thought. It is the starting point of all your acts. Your thoughts can make you popular or hated, unsafe or safe. Everything starts as soon as you realize that this is actually what is happening.

The secret to make this happen is to change your thoughts in such a way that they will help you change your life. You can form your thoughts in a certain way that can help you feel confident and secure. You can build a mindset that will help you to learn quickly and grab the opportunities in life and in your career. If you do that there is literally nothing you cannot change and improve.

There are a lot of ways to change your thoughts and change you life. Each of these will brighten your life, if you choose to apply it. All require time and commitment to incorporate in your life and all guarantee results. Any idea can be used separately or together with another to help you. How far you will get depends if you are ready to change your thoughts and your life.

Are you ready to change your life?

Why do you think the majority of people cannot achieve much in their life? Is it always due to the circumstances? It is their fate? The truth is that most people fail because they do not take their life seriously. Probably you have heard many times that you only have one chance to live your life. But have you really thought about it? How often you do things that give you medium results while you know that you can do better.

One thing is a fact: All people have 24 hours a day and can do whatever they want with them. Nobody has more or less. However, what everyone chooses to do with his/her time can make a difference. If you choose to guide your daily actions to improve yourself and your life then you will create a better life for you. If instead you spent your time not doing actually anything, counting the hours until you finish work, hope to win the lottery, and then probably nothing will be able to change your life.

How seriously you take your life and your success is truly your responsibility. Every morning that the sun rises there are literally millions of other people to co-fight for all the great things that life offers. If you do not get your health, your job, your relationships and your personal development seriously, then very quickly you will fall behind those who do. This is neither fair nor unfair; it is simply the way the system works, it is your choice to be with the winners or losers of life.

The next time you feel that life does not give you what you need, see how seriously you handle your life. Do you give it 100%? Or 60%; only you knows the answer to this question but it is important to ask your self and think how you approach you own life. To change your life for the better you need to give it your maximum efforts.

To take your life more seriously does not mean that you will not be have a good time or fun. On the contrary the goal is to change your thoughts and change your life and become more relaxed and happy. To do that you need to examine your daily and weekly efforts. In life we do not always get what we want but what we deserve. The more you invest in yourself, your work, in your relationships, in your health and personal development, the more your life will return.

A great way to start to implement this idea is at the end of each week to ask yourself if you have done the best you could at all times (at work, in relationships, health and personal development). If the answer is negative then began thinking of ways that you can maximize your efforts next week. Repeat this exercise every week and very soon you will be rewarded by your life.

Change your thoughts about food

Food is the best source of energy in your life. Energy will give you the strength to change your life. The way we approach food is in our thoughts. You need to try and change the way you are facing food. How many people nowadays are not really very tired? Ask anyone how he or she feels and most probably they will respond, «tired». It seems that modern life makes everyone tired, and we have no idea why. While it is true that many of us work harder than before, it is important to realize the value of the food we eat.

Most of us are thinking about food when hungry, and then we eat whatever we want. A good idea to make better use of food is to change the way you see food. Stop thinking about how tasty it is and start to focus on how to supply fuel to your body.

Food is in essence concentrated raw energy in the most basic form. The more energy you have, the more you can experience in your life. Your goal should be to take the most from the food you eat. Instead of you thinking about food only when you are feeling hungry, consider it before you start your day. Ask yourself what activities you have to do and how much energy you need to help you do them. Then decide what fuel best suits your energy needs. Of course, the best natural sources of energy are derived from natural foods like fruit juices and vegetables. This is because they turn into energy faster than any other food. But you have to decide for yourself what kind of food suits your energy needs.

Change your thoughts about the way you handle your problems

Think about which is the best way to handle your problems. Is it better to worry about them? To complain and blame fate as the main cause for you’re problems and feel stressed for the rest of your life? Or to accept that there are difficulties in life and try to find the best ways to deal with them.

When facing a problem, big or small, look at it as a challenge. Each time life brings you in a difficult situation; you should face this situation directly and try with all your efforts to solve the problems. You should approach each problem in a positive way and see it as an opportunity to improve your skills and make you stronger. It’s your choice if you will see something like an opportunity to show your true colours or as a sign that you should just resign. Every time you feel like you are drowning it’s easier to give up and retreat. But the positive approach makes you feel better about the situation and gives you the strength to change your life.

Take control of you life

For most people to have freedom and be able to control their lives is very important. We all know how important is to have the ability to take decisions and the power to choose. What most of us forget is that to have freedom and control in your life this requires a high level of responsibility and self-sufficiency.

Often the best way to determine how «free» you are is to see how many responsibilities you can accept. Everyone is born completely dependent on others, usually our parents. As young children our life is pre-determined and guided. We do not need to find our food, clothing and shelter. We do not decide whether to go to school or not. Everything we do and everything we are is the result of what others do for us. When we grow up we begin to take more and more of these responsibilities on us. Some of us are eager and welcome this change in life. Others, however, tend to try to avoid what it means to be adult. Some ways to change your thoughts and change your life and be more responsible in your life are:

1) Remind yourself: The best way to maintain high levels of accountability in your life is to constantly remind yourself about it. You can say something simple like «this is my responsibility» or «I am responsible». By doing this you trigger a deeper part of your character and become more self-sufficient.

2) Admit your mistakes: One of the fatal flaws of most people is to try to hide their mistakes. They think that because they made a mistake this will cause problems. Most times they try to hide their mistakes by telling lies and blaming others. What they really achieve is to look foolish and unreliable. Making mistakes is the best opportunity to learn something new in your life.

You need to take a decision to face your mistakes and learn from them. Accepting an error automatically makes you more responsible. If there is a field in your life where you could take more responsibility then do it, and you will immediately feel more powerful and dominant in the situation. Change the way you approach mistakes in your life and this will be a very big step in changing your life.

Invest in your personal development

There is too much talk today about investments and success. In the area of the economy there is much debate about what is the best investment. While it is important to watch your money and plan how you will invest, there is another very major investment that you can do: The investment of time and effort on your spiritual development. The knowledge and skills that you can get in your life is your passport to success. People who have the most gains in life are those who spend time every day, every week, every month and every year investing in their personal development. Spend time reading, learning, gaining new skills and improve yourself from the inside out.

Improving yourself spiritually is like building your muscles to be in good form and healthy. If you are consistent in your efforts then the results will come soon. We may not win something in the short term, but in the long term the positive effects will be visible and valuable. Some ideas to improve your personal development skills are:

1) Consider your language. Learn to speak, read and write properly. Each week add a new word in your vocabulary. Words are tools and as many as you can have available, the more better you can communicate and think.

2) Look at your profession. After language, the best way to move forward is to study your profession. Take time to read as much as you can for your company, the type of work, and the general and future directions. Discover the «art» and tricks used by the best employees in your work.

3) Review your communication skills: your ability to get along with different types of people will significantly advance your success in your work. By devoting time to learn how to communicate, you do yourself more popular and more worthy to get what you want from life.

Change your thoughts about how you approach your relationships

It is a fact that to find happiness in life depends on your ability to get along with others. Whether we like it or not people make the world spinning, and your ability to relate, to communicate and contract will strengthen your position in life. Relationships are complicated, disruptive and often they are critical to our success. Perhaps the best way to get as many as you can from a relationship is to see it as a game. Doing so you will become a skilful player, rather than behaving awkwardly not knowing how to relate with others. There are several dynamic ways you can follow to improve your ability to get along with others.

Learn to listen more and talk less - Most people are incredibly poor listeners. Most of us just wait for the opportunity to talk. Try not to speak and try to listen what others have to say. By doing this you will find that more and more people are eager to speak. Listen to them and feel really interested in what they have to say.

Stop being competitive - Often in life we like to compete for everything. A race through the traffic to get to work, trying to defeat our partners for promotion and trying to push our company ahead of our competitors. Sometimes this competitive spirit can enter into the discussions and our relations with others (and impact them negatively), often without even understanding it.

Change your thoughts – Change your life

In modern life you have to make you choices based on what makes you feel good. What makes you feel good or not is in your thoughts. If you can manage to change your thoughts then you will be able to change your life. Start thinking about life in a positive way and appreciate the things that it has to offer. Set your own personal goals and change your thoughts to make these goals part of your life. Be patient, persistent and optimistic and the good results will not take long to come.

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I want to change my life

admin — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 14:50:32 +0000

I want to change my life but I do not know how. We all have phases in our life where either we feel tired, or we have a bad mood, we are nervous and upset without knowing why, we are bored of everything and do not want to see anyone. These are the times that we all wonder, “I want to change my life. But how?” The answer to this question is not simple. There are a lot of ways to change your life. This depends on what is that you do no like in your life and want to change. Each person and situation is different. There are some life hacks which everybody can follow and change their life for the better. This article outlines 15 life hacks that will definitely improve your life and change it for the better.

There are difficult stages in our life where we usually we do not know how to deal with them and thus we enter a vicious cycle of inactivity, low energy and bad mood. How can I change my life to overcome these bad phases? You can change your life by changing small everyday things that can make a big difference though!

Why you cannot change your life?

I want to change my life but I also want to be perfect: From the moment you stop to have a dependency on your perfection, life seems simpler and more enjoyable. You achieve nothing by blaming yourselves constantly and charging you of impotence. You achieve nothing by setting goals, which are unrealistic and then try to meet them, something that is not feasible. Your perfectionism, your persistence to be the first, best, most successful, most beautiful can only cause suffering, because there is always the better. Try to see life in a more relaxed manner and be honest with yourself and less tough. Change you way of thinking and you will be able to change your life.

I want to change my life but other people get in the way: Instead of blaming other people and situations why just not laugh with them? This small change would be enormous in terms of your mood. The humor and self-sarcasms is good for your health! Remember that laughter makes people live longer and makes our life more beautiful and can help you find happiness in your everyday life. It also strengthens our immune system while providing a shield of protection for heart and migraines. Do not always blame other people for your own inefficiencies and unwillingness to make a big step and change your life.

I want to change my life but I do not have time: We have learned to live our lives in crazy and lunatic paces. The whole time we are busy with something and forget to rest and relax. Many times we are exhausted but we have no time to relax. It is therefore important to care about ourselves, and find some time to relax and sleep well, to devote time to do the things we like and we are grateful and not to fill our lives with endless obligations. We have the right to rest and spend out time pleasantly. Life is not just a job … so relax without remorse. If you want to change your life you first have to find some time to plan for the change and organize your next steps.

I want to change my life but I am not the oath and promises type: If you want to change your life but the great promises and oath are not your type and you also tend to forget them easily. Start with small daily changes in your life that can make a difference.

15 life hacks to help you change your life

1. How is your sexual health?

It is proven that sex is good for your health. Sex beautifies the skin, burns calories and boosts your confidence! Also gives you emotional balance and well being. It is also the best tonic for your mood, helping you psychologically and improving your mood.

2. Diet and exercise…

A balanced diet and perhaps a detoxification diet on which you avoid all fat and unhealthy food will renew your mood and give you more energy and appetite for life. You can try one of the free low cholesterol diets. A good breakfast will give you the «fuel» that your body needs to meet the demands of the day and thus reduce the feeling of fatigue that you may feel.

You should reduce the consumption coffee to improve your nervousness and eliminate your migraine headaches while you can exercise (even if it is few minutes walk) to benefit from the many benefits of exercise to your health.

Do not forget that happiness lies in simple things. Instead of seeing everything around you negative or insignificant, you should enjoy the small joys everyday life can offer. A smile, a well-cooked food, a pleasant evening with your friends, a walk with your dog, is all you need to feel happy and satisfied.

3.Quit smoking today!

Soon smoking will be prohibited in all counties. All knows the harmful effects of smoking. The benefits of quitting smoking are a lot and certainly worth’s a try:

Within 20 minutes the blood pressure is reduced and pulse fall, while increasing the temperature of the body
After 8 hours the levels of oxygen are increased in the blood and the levels of carbon dioxide are reduced
In 24 hours the chances of heart attack are decreased
In 48 hours the taste and smell are enhanced
In 72 hours, the breathing becomes smoother
After 2 weeks to 3 months blood circulation is improved
In 1 to 9 months the cough caused by smoking is eliminated
After 5 years the death from lung cancer is reduced by 50%
After 10 years the pre cells are replaced, while decreasing the probability of occurrence of other cancers.

4. Get rid of stress

Stress is harmful for the heart, circulatory system and more generally for your health. You need to eliminate stress from your life. Some simple tips to help you out: improve the relations with your family, friends and colleagues. Try stress therapies such as meditation, yoga and other alternative treatments and exercises that relax and calm your mind. You cannot say, “I want to change my life” if you have managed to control the stress in your life.

5. Escape from the daily routine

On sunny days, escape into the countryside. The benefit is twofold: it will make you feel better and also it will help you regulate the levels of melatonin, the hormone that regulates your biological clock. These disorders cause bad mood, decreased energy, all this is also called «winter depression».

6. Eat more fruits and vegetables

You must eat at least five portions of fruit and vegetables on a daily basis to have the desired protection from chronic diseases. Moreover, numerous studies confirm that they also reduce the likelihood of obesity by 28% in women and up to 46% in men. Still, with each portion of fruit and vegetables (eg a medium size fruit or a small bowl with vegetables) can reduce the risk of heart attack by 4% and stroke by 6%.

7. Surf the net!

Make surfing the web one of your daily favourite habits. Search for things that interest you, visit websites that you like. Scientists from the University of California found that adults and especially the elderly, who deal with new technology, are more vigorous mentally. And this is because the search procedure on the Internet is an activity that helps the brain because it activates the mechanisms that control decisions. Apart from searching the web you may well start a new blog yourself and expose online your writing talent!

8. Be faithful to yourself and others

Except that infidelity can cause a lot of confusion, recently Italian researchers of the Italian Migraine Society determined that the illegal sex can cause strong headaches onto unfaithful with a period of up to three hours! Scientists sound the alarm: in 3-4% of the infidel headaches may lead to a brain aneurysm, which in some cases is fatal. I want to change my life – I am unfaithful. These two situations don’t go together. If you want to change your life you have to be honest first with your self and then to others.

9.Good night sleep

First, sleep helps to rest sufficiently the mind and body. Secondly, as regards women sleep reduces the risk of a breast cancer. A study by U.S scientists indicates that women who sleep less than seven hours a night are up to 47% more likely to develop cancer, even if they exercise on a regular basis.

10. Keep walking…

Twenty minutes walking a day is enough to improve both physical fitness and your memory. If you forget easily, you should try and take a walk on a daily basis. Australian doctors, who have studied the results of research on the effect of simple physical activity in people with memory problems, agree to beneficial effects of exercise on our memory and urge people to try it.

To see how you are doing over time, you could get one of the many discount heart monitor watches and check your heart rate, as you walk. By monitoring your heart rate, you can get a sense of your cardiovascular progress, as walking becomes one of your regular heart healthy habits

11. Use the stairs more often…

If you want to add years to your life, begin to use the stairs frequently. Researchers from the University Hospital of Geneva reported that those participated in the survey used the stairs very frequently in a period of three months. The outcome was that they saw the fat in their waist and in other parts of the body to be reduced, as well as the blood pressure and their cholesterol.

12. Do not forget brushing your teeth

A new research, presented at the Society of General Microbiology in Trinity College Dublin, brings new evidence of gum disease and how they put the heart at risk. The researchers note that regular cleaning of the mouth may save your life! There are now over fifty studies that confirm that the dental problems are associated with heart attacks and strokes and this is now beyond any doubt.

13. Close the TV!

According to researchers at the University of Maryland in the U.S., the unhappy people watch 30% more TV than the happy people. Without making clear from this survey whether the distress torque responsible for our television or television responsible for the misery. But researchers are firmly: those who watch too much television does not have other good things in life, as a friendly companionship, sex, exercise or social activities can become truly unhappy.

14. Eat chocolate

Scientists from the University of Leeds in Britain included coffee, tea and chocolate as number one beverages for well being and longevity. They attribute their beneficial effects on polyphenols, substances that act as a shield to protect against many diseases, including heart disease. Moreover, these drinks can slow down the aging process by protecting cells from the normal wear that time brings. Moreover they do not affect acne as many people believe. You can read more in the acne cures guide.

15. Help other people

According to a recent study by biologists and psychologists’ researchers from the British University of Nottingham, the altruism, in addition to other beneficial effects, is attractive for the opposite sex. Do selfless acts (donations, volunteering) and increased your sexuality and your quality of life.

You have now seen 15 life hacks to change your life. The next time you will wonder “I want to change my life“, revisit this list and start taking action for your own benefit.

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How to change your life

admin — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 18:09:51 +0000

Many people believe that changing your professional and personal life is just a matter of luck. Either will come to your life or not. Experts and successful can confirm that there is no luck. There are some specific steps on how to change your life, which you can follow, some concrete steps that can lead to success in your life.

What is a change in life? I have read many definitions of how people define a life change, but the predominant and most commonly used term is: “Changing your life means to work consistently with all your forces to achieve a remarkable dream.”

So you can see that changing your life is not solely to obtain money, power and glory. But it has to do with the personal dream of everyone. For some this would be to e.g. become successful parents, successful in their job because this is really what they want, and this is what they are working on paying any price, without negotiations. Striving to become better at what they do, not because of selfishness or vanity, but because of their internal need to develop all their talents and reach their own personal success and happiness.

Anyone can define happiness differently because what everyone considers a remarkable dream is completely subjective but the ingredients and recipe is common to all. How to change your life then is a matter to learn and apply those steps that will help you to make THAT change in your life that can bring you success and happiness.

The setting of goals is a key ingredient in the whole process of how to change your life. You must put goals in life and try to accomplish them without allowing anyone and anything to mislead you. Always remain attached to them. All of us have heard that when you see a star falling and make a wish it will come out true. We all understand that when you see a star falling there is no time to make a wish. The person, who can make a wish during that time, is someone who has constantly in his mind his life goals. It is therefore important to have goals, be focused on chasing them with all appropriate ways, principles and values we have as people.

Usually there are 5 reasons that may prevent you to change your life:

Low self-esteem and self-confidence
Low understanding of the real meaning of a life change
Not clear or no personal goals, no ambitious or dreams for a better life
Not being able to deal with the imaginary fears of failure
Being afraid of the change
Not willing to take the risk and enjoy the benefits of a new life

Steps on how to change your life

1. Do you have a dream?

The first component of the recipe on how to change your life is to have your own remarkable dream. Do you have specific wishes about who you are and you want to become in your life. For what you want to do and what you want to have in your life. This vision should be clear in your mind and in your heart. It helps to write it down or have photos, so as to see or to read it daily. If you do not have a dream or vision then you need to first change your mind and then try to change your life. A journey without destination is an endless journey.

2. Commitment

You need to commit towards yourself and your dream that you will make whatever it takes to achieve it. Do not negotiate about your dream, nor let anyone steal it from you. This is about your own existence and happiness. Furthermore if you betray your dreams who else will care about this?

3. Faith in yourself and self-assessment

Believing in yourself and in your dreams are important ingredients. If you do not treat yourself as a valuable person, worthy and capable, then you have a little chance to be able to change or control the conditions and opportunities that lead to life changes.

4. Responsibility

Take responsibility for all the events in your life that lead to either success or failure. The largest percentage of people believes that only others are to blame for the own failure or misery. With this way of thinking they cut alone the road to success. If you want to really change your life you have to change your brain, your thoughts and way of thinking.

5. Optimism

Those who are successful know that there are situations beyond their capabilities. They are not disappointed though. They feel good in themselves, are optimistic, confident about the future and work productively in the present. They see a change in their life as another opportunity for success and they are confident that they can make the necessary steps to change their life for the better.

6. Visualization

All successful people use a continuous and productive way of imagination, trying new ideas in light of their own potential. After all what is created in our world was the result of a creative imagination of man, whose persistence and effort transformed the imagination to reality.

7. Alertness

Those who are constantly vigilant they achieve to know what’s happening and who is doing what and they have their eyes open to new opportunities.

8. Creativity and emotional intelligence

Successful people become accustomed to recognize the opportunities they see, even the problems, and they can see the various adverse situations from many different sides. They have maturity and emotional stability to remain calm in difficult situations. Despite all the adversity they do not lose their targets from their eyes. They know what they need to change in their lives and they find ways to change it.

9. Patience and perseverance

Patience and perseverance are the qualifications of successful people. They are qualifications of people who know how to change their lives and for people who understand that this process takes times and needs a lot of effort. Most people today cannot reach success because they do not have the skills, mainly due to the lack of emotional maturity.

The winners never give up and those who give up never win.

So you need to exercise your patience and perseverance because without these two ingredients you can forget success.

10. Find a mentor

The mentor is a successful person / book / web site, who will help you to change your life and find happiness and success. Your mentor will be your guide and will help you to achieve what you want. Without a mentor, the road to success is very difficult. If we could get alone to where we wanted then the world would be filled with successful people. Consider this as the first step for changing your life. Decide who or what will be your mentor and follow the steps that will lead you towards success.

11. Always think about success

To change your life is a prerequisite for success. It is the inevitable step in our lives to go from mediocrity to greatness. Look at your life and if you do not live the life you want, if you do not have the relationship you want, if you do not have all the money you want, if you do not have the happiness you want, then your left with one step to change! Brain, thinking, attitude, behavior and life!

12. Help others to become successful

In a highly competitive world, this sounds paranoid. But helping other to become successful is one of the dynamic keys to success. Success should be shared, to have, and to increase continuously. If you can help someone else to change their life, then this will give your more courage and strength to change your own life.

13. Identify and win your fears

One of the most common problems people face when they try to change their lives is in their brains and in their imaginary world of fantasy and fears. In this world everything is to blame and everything and everyone works against them. These people experience feelings of loneliness, fear of abandonment, they are afraid of the criticism of others and generally they have low self-confidence and self esteem.

Another, serious problem these people face, is the inability to live and enjoy every moment. Their every thought is associated to the fears of the past and for the possible failures of the future.

14. Examine your relationship with others

You cannot change your life without the support of other people around you (family and friends). Talk to your friends and family, explain to them your concerns and hear what they have to say. How to change your life is solely your decision but in the long run you will need the support of your family and friends and you need to secure this from the start.

15. Understand the difference between ‘I have to’ and ‘I want to’.

Many people do not understand that the way to change their life is by understanding the difference between the “I have to do something” and between “I want to do something”. You should analyze your “I have to” list and decide if some items on this list can be removed completely or at least change. Items on this list are usually what other people want from you and not what you really want. Concentrate your efforts on the “I want to” list. Do as many things from this list and enjoy every moment.

16. Be thankful

Only people who have a positive attitude can make changes and succeed in life. You need to feel gratitude first to God for all the pleasant and unpleasant (they are our best teachers). To accept everything that comes in your life.

17. Integrity and honesty

Integrity is to tell myself the truth and honesty to tell the truth to others. Integrity is one of the most important principles of success. The more often we say the truth to ourselves and not fooling, and let others tell us the truth, the more successful we are. How can you change your life if you are not honest with yourself? Success is based on truth. If we go back to lies and fraud we will fail.

Besides the 17 steps outlined above on how to change your life, there are other small but yet very important advices that can help you change your way of thinking and eventually help you to change your life. The life hacks outlined below are essential for anyone wishing to do a real change in their lives not only by concentrating on how to find success or on how to become successful in life, but also on how to turn every day life activities into an opportunity for a life change. Most of the items in the list below are very easy to follow, all you have to do is read them and remember them the next morning.

Always look for the positive aspects of things
Enjoy the little things, look grateful and smile
Always expect something positive and fun
Put things in perspective
Set realistic goals
Understand what is really important for you
Show flexibility and adaptability
Resolve your problems and be ready to compromise
Let rigid definitions, “should” and perfection
Be prepared for the possibility of error, and always have a backup plan
Adapt to the current situation
Leave aside the anger and hostility
Use humor. The laughter is indeed the best medicine
Be kind to yourself, remain the best friend of yourself.
Try to live healthy
Watch your diet, exercise
Stop the bad unhealthy habits
Learn something new, start a hobby, do things you like
Get out – enjoy the fresh air and sunshine
Socialize
Make-out with people who make you feel good
Spend more time with your family and your fellow colleagues
Be a good listener
Talk about your feelings

How to change your life is a process that takes time and effort. It is not something obscure but it something that all people can achieve if they have the will to change their lives.

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Change your life with 9 simple steps

admin — Sun, 18 Jan 2009 09:19:27 +0000

Changing your life is not an easy thing to do. It needs courage, strength, patience and willingness. To change your life you need first to know what you really want to do with your life. What are your dreams for the present and the future? Do you reject your dream because you think it is impossible to achieve? Is it because the circumstances of your life or the people around you have managed to convince you that the dreams in life are a luxury and that should settle with the «small» and «secure» instead of chasing things that you want to do. Life to be beautiful needs a risk…

We all have phases in our lives in which we either feel tired or have a bad mood, or we are angry and sad without knowing why, and we are bored of everything and do not want to see anyone…

Usually we do not know how to deal with these faces of our lives and as a result we fall into a vicious cycle of inaction, low energy and negative thinking. What we can do change our mood and overcome those bad phases? We need to react and change our lives . This can be achieved with small things of everyday life that can make the big difference!

9 Simple Steps to change your life

1. Decide that you need to change your life

Everything in our lives is the result of our choices. It’s our choice not trying to fulfil our dreams and it’s our choice to compromise with the current situation that gives us a rudimentary – virtual certainty. It is certain that when we do not risk and practically do nothing, there is no risk of failure. Simply, in this case the failure is a permanent situation that gradually becomes a habit and does not disturb us. It is a failure not trying to get where we want or where we are worth – despite that we do not realise it or despite the fact that we find thousands of excuses for ourselves. On the other hand, any success if we look for it, we will see that involves some degree of risk and this is a result of personal choice. In order for us to be able to make the right choices we should first of all find out what we really want to do in our lives.

2. Set and visualize your goals

The right decision is the most important factor that will lead us to the next steps towards the realization of our dreams and goals. Think of a painter who wants to create a beautiful painting. First he captures the idea and thinks of the final result. What will the painting illustrate and what colours to use? Having visualized the final result then creates a blueprint to allow him to see how to proceed in order to be able to have the desired effect. Each stroke is a step towards the final goal, the more beautiful the stroke, the more beautiful it is the result!

The same pattern applies to any goal or dream we have in our life. You have for example the dream to succeed professionally. First you must specify and clarify in your mind what is the area in which you want to excel, depending on your skills. The next step is to see what skills you need and direct your target to acquire these skills, and then you need to get the right job and work hard. This sequence of right choices will lead you with mathematical precision to where you want to reach. The road to success is always the same: planned moves, hard work and focus on the objective.

If your dream is to marry and create a wonderful family, it does not change anything from what we said above. In order to marry you must first need to find an appropriate partner and decide what will make you happy. Choosing the right person is your first step, but for a marriage to be happy you need to have understanding, compromises and a lot – a lot of love.

3. Do not “avoid” your dreams

Unfortunately, most of us are constantly busy with our jobs and so smothered in the problems of everyday life that do not find time to sit quietly with ourselves and decide what we want from our lives or what are those things which will make us happy. Unfortunately, we have not understood that when we «avoid» ourselves, in essence we avoid our goals and our dreams. We cannot realize that a dream can give us wings and change radically our reality! If we leave ourselves free to dream it will fill our souls with the will and strength to make the first step.

4. Nobody is perfect!

From the moment we stop to have a dependency on perfection, life seems simpler and more enjoyable. We achieve nothing if we blame ourselves constantly charging it with impotence. We achieve nothing by setting targets, which are not realistic, and then run like mad to meet them and then naturally fail. The mania of us to be the first, best, most successful, the most beautiful can only cause suffering, because there is always the best. Let us see life more relaxed and let us be honest with us and less tough.

5. Humour!

Instead of getting angry about behaviours and situations why we cannot just laugh with them? This small change would be enormous in terms of our mood. The humour and self-sarcasms makes us good! Remember that laughter makes our life longer and more beautiful, strengthens the protection of the body and strengthens the immune system and provide a shield to protect the heart and migraines.

6. Slow down and relax

We have learned to live our lives hastily in lunatics pace. All the time we are busy with something and forget to rest and relax. Many times we are too tired but we do not realize early to get some time to rest and at the end we get over-tired. It is therefore important to spend some time for ourselves to relax and sleep well, to devote time to do the things we like and we are grateful and not to fill our lives with endless obligations. We have the right for rest and pleasure. Life is not just a job … so relax without remorse.

7. Do not neglect your sexual health

It is proven that sex is good for our health. Sex beautifies the skin, burns calories and boosts our confidence! It also gives emotional balance and wellbeing. Flirting is also the best tonic for our mood; it improves our psychological condition and makes us feel good.

8. Diet and exercise

A balanced diet and perhaps a detoxification diet in which to avoid all fat and unhealthy food will renew our mood and will give us energy and appetite for life. A good breakfast will give us the «fuel» that our body needs to meet the demands of the day and thus reduce the feeling of fatigue that we are likely to feel.

We should try and reduce the coffee so as to decrease the nervousness and headaches while the exercise (even if it is a few minutes walk) is very beneficial for our mood and our health as a whole.

9. Happiness is in simple things

Let us not forget that happiness lies in simple things. Instead of seeing everything around us negative or insignificant, you should enjoy the small joys that everyday life offers us. A smile, a tasty food, a pleasant evening with our family, a walk with our dog, a hug from the person we love can fill us with happiness and satisfaction. Do not underestimate it!

10. Be prepared to take the next step…

Our lives will never change if deal with it with contentment and defeatism. To change our lives we need radical measures, we need goals, effort, struggle, discipline and consistency. Above all, we have a soul, our soul. A dream is enough to make our soul capable of everything….

Do not allow anyone to affect you and distracts you from your goals. Anyone is doing what is right for his or her self, so do what YOU think it right for yourself and not what directly or indirectly imposed to you by people or situations.

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