Self pity is a very destructive emotion that can make people feel they are living in a hopeless situation they do not have the strength to cope with or get out of. This often leads to depression and feeling of giving up. When a person is going through a tough time in life it is hard to make changes that might improve their life situation. Keep in mind there is a difference between normal sadness like when a loved one passes away and ongoing self pity that is a daily occurrence.
Struggling with self pity is a mental and physical drain not only for the sufferer, but also for the people that love them. This only contributes to a greater feeling of hopelessness and despair. Life is too precious to live in a cloud of depression. The only way to take your life back is to take action and stop feeling sorry for yourself.
One of the most important things to remember is every person has felt sorry for themselves for different reasons. Other people just like you were once engulfed in a constant state of playing the victim role while feeling a tremendous amount of self pity. How did their lives change? They took steps to improve their mental outlook by becoming aware of their mood, developing a plan of action, and exploring techniques that would help them achieve their goal.
Not everyone can afford a private therapist, but there are free support groups started by people that where in the exact place you were. Books and audio programs are another great resource on how to stop feeling sorry for yourself. They provide insightful information and positive messages on how to cope with and overcome feelings of pity. The worst thing a person can do is ignore what is happening. You need to take action on a daily basis starting today.